Experiential learning is the most powerful way that we all learn. We learn from our mistakes, and we make better decisions, in the future. As adults, we are able to evaluate our behaviour and change accordingly. Children do not have this ability.
Responsibility is a higher level concept, and it is taught to children from a young age. Parents can encourage your child’s development by toys and games, and teach them valuable life lessons.
From a young age, there are simple ways that you can teach your child to be responsible. You may encourage your toddler to choose their own clothing and help to tidy up toys. Even learning to brush your own teeth, is something that children have to learn.
Doing your own homework, making your lunch for school – these are all task based activities that encourage a child to learn about responsibility.
Responsibility and consequence go together, and every parent has a different approach to discipline. Regardless of your parenting style, you need to teach children how to be responsible. It starts with you.
Easy ways to make your child responsible and disciplined
1. Age Appropriate Chores And Rewards! A Star Chart!
Children, from a young age, need to learn to do simple chores, such as making a bed, tidying a room, or being well behaved. A star chart is a great way to reward your child for good behaviour and is a lovely visual reminder, and teaching tool.
Fun stickers and rewards can be anything and help parents to evaluate a child’s behaviour. Consequences are important and can be positive, or negative.
2. The Most Important Lesson: I am sorry.
We all make mistakes and need to apologise. Children are more emotional, fragile, and sensitive than adults, and saying sorry may be harder to do. Children, from toddlers to teens, never want to disappoint their parents, and their identity is linked to their parents’ self-esteem, too. While there are consequences for bad behaviour, the most important lesson, which you need to teach your child is to say they are sorry.
Apologising is an act of taking responsibility, and communicating this regret, to other people. You need to teach children to do this, and it may not be easy to do. It’s a higher level behaviour, and not only about saying the words “I’m sorry.’
3. Encouraging Your Child Through Role Play With Toys! Pooh is angry!
Children have a rich imagination and you could teach your child using toys, such as plush toys. Perhaps Mr. Monkey will steal Winnie The Pooh’s honey, and Pooh will be very sad. If Mr. Monkey tells Pooh he is sorry, and that he was very hungry, Pooh will understand, and they can be friends. Learning about responsibility and consequences are higher level concepts. Educational games and toys are a great way to encourage the development of your child, too.
4. Educational Games & Toys!
Puzzles, board games and all children’s play is a time when they are learning about the world, too. Social rules, such as – not having a tantrum if you lose, or disrupting a game, if things are not going your way, or shouting at your fellow team members, if you are frustrated – are learned through play too.
Puzzles and games teach us how to share with other people, to take turns, and to follow rules. These are mini-life lessons, which teach children good manners, and behaviour and communication skills.
5. A Family Pet
Caring for an animal is a wonderful way to teach children about responsibility. While Louis the puppy looks so cute in the store, Louis’s poop on the floor needs cleaning too. Responsibility can be taught and shared.
Louis needs fresh water, daily, food, and bathing too, and your children must help too. This is a lesson that children need help learning. While childhood is a relatively carefree time, it is also a time to encourage your child’s development by toys and games, and learning to be responsible. Already thinking of buying a pet? Smart move!
Teaching your child to be a responsible adult and to take responsibility for their own actions too, starts from a very young age. Letting your toddler choose their own clothes to wear, or rewarding your teenager for keeping her room tidy, and washing the dishes every night, helps to teach your children about life’s responsibilities.
Encourage your child’s social and emotional development by playing educational games, and show them how to be more responsible for their actions. This is a very mature concept to learn, but it will help your children to be successful – in all areas of life, both in their daily life and in their future lives. Responsible children will learn to be responsible adults. (Rocky rebellious teenage years included).
This guest post was kindly provided to me by Kevin.
I am Kevin co-founder of Toys Advisors blog. I have a lovely family with my wife Anna, my son Tom and my daughter Jane. I spent most of time with my family, I learn and share about parenting, DIY.